I’m very much the type of person who is inspired by other writers. I read Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie’s book Americanah, and I was inspired to write more. I’m a reader, I always have been. I haven’t always been inspired to write though. I’ve just watched a video of a speech she made at a Girls Write Now award ceremony, and I was once again inspired by her. I love the way she carries herself, and more than than that, I love what she said.

“forget about likability.”

As someone who wants to tell my truth, and tell my story, I come face to face with this wall of, likability. How much is too much to say? Should I speak now? What if people don’t like what I have to say? What if they take offense? I have been the type of person who has held back, even in this space, even in a space that is mine. I care what people think, I do. I want them to like me,so I hold back my opinions. I hold back my voice. I understand that there is a right time to speak, a right time to be heard, but oftentimes, that right time passes under the guise of, being mindful. 

The last few months were quite possibly the hardest months of this year, because of my inability to speak, because I felt muzzled. Suffice to say, I don’t think I will ever choose to live with roomates again if it is in my power, but that’s another story. 

This year I want to exercise my voice. and throw caution to the wind. 

Forget about likability.

Grace and Peace.